Are Limiting Beliefs Stopping You From Achieving Your Goals?
Aug 28, 2017 | By: Pat B. Freeman
Everyone has conscious or subconscious ideas that can become limiting beliefs that stop us from achieving our goals if we let them. Sometimes these beliefs are instilled in us in childhood and sometimes we create them ourselves. An example of a limiting belief that can get in your way of success is how you see yourself with money. If you believe you will always struggle and always be poor, chances are you’ll set yourself up for failure. Your limiting belief that you’re poor and that you always will be poor becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. The same thing can be said about anything negative in your life that limits you - whether it’s career, education, or personal such as being healthy and of normal weight. If you see yourself a certain way, it can be hard to change that view and let go of that limiting belief.
Below are seven examples of a limiting belief:
1. “It’s hopeless” – Anytime you use the word “never” is a clue that you’re focusing on a limiting belief.
2. “I’m helpless” – When most people feel uneducated or helpless, they blame their circumstances instead of working to change them.
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”
— Neale Donald Walsch
3. “It’s useless” – The idea that nothing you do will make a difference is that you believe that any action you take won’t make a difference.
4. “It’s the universe” - Sometimes a limiting belief has to do with the idea that outside forces that you can’t control are at work keeping you down. You can’t find a job or get clients because the economy sucks, where you live is depressed, you don’t have the right clothing and so forth, but you do nothing in your power to change it because it’s destiny. “Everything happens for a reason” type of thinking can be very limiting and make you feel powerless.
5. “I’m worthless” – The idea that you’re not smart enough or good enough to do what you really want can be a very strong limiting belief. You feel you're not pretty enough, smart enough, or good enough to have something, so you don’t take the necessary steps to achieve it because you don’t feel that you deserve it.
6. “It’s genetic” – Although genetics does play a big role in a person’s life, the truth is that some things can be fixed with the right mindset, training, exercise, and outlook.
7. “I’ll fail” – The fear of failure is something most people have as a limiting belief. “I’m a bad public speaker so if I do it, I’ll be judged, and I’ll fail anyway so why even try.” (Check out my online confident public speaking course and learn how to beat the fear. Click here to learn more. )
If any of these phrases go through your head, disconnect from them. Then turn them around by replacing the limiting belief with a positive opposite phrase. Also, say, “why not me” instead of “why me.” Always ask “why not me” because the truth is, you’re not feeling anything different from anyone else who has made goals and achieved them. The difference is in the belief and action.