Are you in danger of being in an "attractive-distractive" relationship when it comes to achieving your goals?
Can distractions and attractions work together to help you achieve your goals?
Lately, I've been thinking about distractions versus attractions. So, I decided to blog about it. Have you ever thought that maybe your distractions might very well be attractions? For example:
Are you distracted by your dream to become an entrepreneur?
Are you distracted by your need to get that long-awaited promotion?
Are you distracted by the thought of someday writing a book?
Do you get distracted by your aspirations to earn a certain income to be able to live the lifestyle you feel you deserve?
Are you distracted by the thought of what you want to do with your life?
These are common thoughts by many who have a desire to grow and thrive in this limited span of time we have here on earth. But, during the journey, there are crossroads that can take you off course. One is the "D" word, distractions. Let's turn that word around to work in our favor rather than against us. Why?
“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.”
— Oprah Winfrey
Well, because we all get distracted at some point, and have attractions and aspirations. Both can serve as triggers that can cause us to be distracted. Either way, distractions, as well as attractions, can eat up your time if you're not mindful how to manage them.
Distractions are viewed as unfavorable, while attractions are seen as something favorable. But aren't they somewhat one in the same? One "takes" your attention away from what you're trying to focus on and the other "invites" your attention away to something you would prefer to be focused on. Isn't that still taking your attention away? To that point, I decided to Google the two terms to get a more formal definition:
Distraction - a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to something else
Attraction - a quality or feature of something or someone that evokes interest, liking, or desire
As you can see, we have the same general definition.
Whenever there is a problem or challenge, there is also a solution somewhere. Sometimes the problem can serve a dual purpose. It can be part of the problem and part of the solution. So, let's extract the "good stuff" out of some distractions and make them more attractive. If they can be used to achieve a "desired" goal, they become more attractive and useful.
A Solution: What do you need to know? You need to know what distracts you and determine if it’s attractive enough to help you achieve your goal. For example, set a short-term goal, a 90-day goal. If your distraction is attractive enough to qualify to be placed on your list of things to help you achieve your goal in the next 90 days, consider it an "attractive distraction" and add it to your Achieve List of this to do. Otherwise, it has no useful purpose, which qualifies it as a distraction. Your achieve list can be planned in 90-day cycles. Giving the useful distractions a time and place makes it valuable and, therefore, not a distraction. Viewing it as such will allow for creativity and flexibility in your focus -- and allow some distractions to work in your favor.
At the end of the 90-days, repeat this Attractive Distractions activity. Before you know it, you’ll have fewer distractions to eat up your time. Therefore, the next time you're distracted, be sure to use this test to determine if it qualifies. If so, put it to work for you!
Tip: If 90 days is too long, and you wish to experience success in shorter intervals, try doing it in 30-day intervals or less.
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I’d love to hear your feedback. Are you challenged by distractions that take you off focus? Or do you have an attractive distraction you'd like to share? Write your comment below.
Pat B. Freeman
Empowerment Coach & Vision-Building Expert
Helping turn your Inspiration-to-Action, and your Passion-to-Profits!